Making BIG Plans

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2018

If you’re anything like me you sit here, first day of a new year and you’re expectant. You’re full of hope and excited for what this new year holds. And also, if you’re anything like me you sit here tired and maybe a little fearful. I know, I know, fear should be in no one’s vocabulary but let’s be honest about it. I’ll get to that later…

First it’s the holidays… Decorate the house, Christmas cards, gifts for everyone you love, charity work, normal household duties/mom/wife responsibilities, decorate the tree, black Friday shopping, baking, wrapping, cooking, Christmas parties, moving the stupid elf, and don’t forget to slow down and savor the season…. and maintain your workout routine of course.

Let me add here that I absolutely love all of the things I listed above (minus the elf, I don’t love him). I can just sometimes get overwhelmed by the pressure of it all and that makes me tired. Emotionally, physically and spiritually tired. And I know I’m not alone.

Then it’s over.

Then it’s 2018.

It’s time to reflect on the past year and hope for the year to come.

With the ending of another year we are able to reflect on the lessons learned, the good times, the painful times, the “normal” times and look forward to a new year with an expectant heart. A heart that is ready for change. Whether you find yourself finishing out a year of pain or you find yourself finishing out one of your best years yet I think we can all agree that a new year brings about new hope.

I feel like our current social climate severely distorts our ability to see reality. We view reality through the filters of social media and everyone’s highlight reel. A topic that I could probably write a book on, or at least another {too long} blog post.

I think I’m a pretty private person, when it comes to social media, which is the way a lot of you actually even know who I am. My husband would laugh at this because he thinks I over post our life… but I mean in the sense that I’m not the type of person to air dirty laundry or spread negativity through social platforms. Don’t get me wrong; more often than not I want to! My triggers are disloyalty and dishonesty, so when people aren’t being truthful, injustice seems to abound or people are just being plain hurtful I want to get on my social media soapbox and set the record straight… but by the grace of God I don’t. Because I don’t post my bad days, days I’ve yelled at my kids, days I’ve failed as a wife or a friend or a boss, or days I want to tell someone off, etc… I don’t want you to get the false idea that I have my junk together.

Hello, my name is Tara and I’m addicted to people pleasing. This has been my 2017 struggle. Really a struggle my whole life, but this year I’ve really seen the bondage it has put me in. I don’t think it was by accident that the Lord decided that my life’s work would be serving people… on a deep level. Another whole book could be written about this story and God’s grace and sense of humor. I’m just touching a tip of the iceberg of the soul searching this year has led to but I need you to know that life isn’t always as it seems for others. You are not alone if you struggled this last year.

Which brings me to…

Resolutions.

The over-used, over-marketed name for goals. It really irks me when something good for us has been marketed so hard that it takes away it’s power. No matter what you call them, resolutions or goals, I think having goals and a plan are key to living your best life, and a ton of research backs that up, so if you call them resolutions or goals I’m a fan of aiming for something and what better time to do them then at the start of a new year. If you’re of the opinion that people who make “new years resolutions” just break them anyway so you’re not going to allow yourself the disappointment I challenge you to check your pride and check your fear at the door. Call them goals and now you’re among the most influential people in our lifetime and in history.

Fear.

Fear of failure is the most common lie that we believe. Myself included. Remember that I’m a people pleaser. Me failing would affect others negatively so if I just avoid people or setting goals that are bigger than myself then I won’t disappoint others and myself. What a clever way the devil uses to keep us from impacting our world. And I can tell you that I’m not ok living in that space any longer and neither should you.

Our world needs us. Collectively. It needs us to not be numb to the world around us. It needs us to not be passive and think that someone else will step up to the plate. In a year where integrity of those in powerful positions seems to have been so warped and lost in translation that what better of a time than NOW to step up, and WHO better to do it than YOU? 2018 needs you, needs us.

For me that looks like setting goals for this year that scare me. Goals that maybe aren’t “safe” or inside my box. Setting goals that aren’t all about me and me only. It also looks like discipline. We live in a “feel good” society, not wanting to deny ourselves anything. I need discipline in my life. The bible tells us that “in the moment, all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant but later it yields peaceful fruit for those who have been trained by it.” I’m setting personal goals of discipline in the areas of the 3 “F’s”: food, fitness and finances. Everything works together so set goals across multiple areas of your life. And don’t forget to write down your PLAN for achieving them. A goal without a plan is just a wish. Things don’t happen by accident. Ever.

Take the time today or tomorrow or carve out time in your calendar this week to
DREAM BIG*. Make those resolutions. Make a plan. Work your plan and impact your world.

*Disclaimer, dreaming big doesn’t mean you have to plan to impact the whole world… impact YOUR world… those you come in contact with everyday, your family, friends, coworkers, people behind you at the coffee shop, etc.

Here we come 2018!

By Tara Crenshaw, co-owner of Get Fit Modesto